Surviving to Serenity
Written and illustrated by Meg Toomie

“Narcissistic abuse is happening every day, it is happening all over the world, and it is happening to men and women.

I al not a professional in narcissistic abuse. Instead, I am a survivor of abusive relationships. I personally know how difficult it is to be in a relationship with an abuser, but how it is equally as difficult to leave.

You could suffer narcissistic abuse from a partner, family member, friend, or even a colleague. You could be any age, and the abuser could also be any age.”

“Narcissistic abuse can be very well hidden from others. The victim will become isolated away from family and friends, and so this abuse can go on for years without anybody noticing. The victim will often not speak out because of the manipulation of the narcissist, having them think this is normal, or their own fault.

I have written Surviving to Serenity as it was a part of my own healing journey. After learning about the narcissistic cycle I began to understand exactly what happened to me. Through my drawings I was able to reach out to not only myself, but also other victims, survivors, and even those who have not experienced it.

My aim for my book is to help support those who are suffering from this abuse. It is also to help educate family members and friends of what goes on inside a narcissistic abusive relationship.

I was 18 years old when I suffered from my first abusive relationship. I didn’t understand that it was wrong, and so made it my ‘normal’. This is why I went on to have other abusive relationships into my adulthood. It worries me deeply that young people are being taught through films, books and social media, that this kind of controlling abuse is ok. It is being romanticised. That is not ok.

I am thrilled that kaleidoscopic UK are going to be using my book in their Educate to Eradicate programme with secondary school children.
I hope that my book is able to give them the knowledge of those ‘red flags’ and so be able to help them identify this abuse.

Thank you kaleidoscopic UK.

Meg”